I can’t say that I’ve ever been in a romantic relationship with another individual on the spectrum. So far in my life as a 25-year-old adult with PDD-NOS I’ve been in several relationships but I’ve always thought if it would be different to date someone on the spectrum. It’s something I’ve been thinking about ever since I started dating almost a decade ago.
The whole thought of this came back to me several weeks ago when I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and a post from my friend Alex Plank came up. It discussed a new e-book called “Asperger Love” featuring a relationship between two more individuals on the spectrum I admire in Jack Robison and Kirstein Lindsmith. I got to meet them at a meeting in New York 2 years ago and there was an obvious chemistry between the two that I noticed.
It made me think a lot about relationships. This is why I wanted to give it a look. It also helped in convincing me to read the e-book that Amy Harmon from The NY Times wrote because of her work on autism related articles in the past. It seemed like a perfect fit for me.
In the book Amy Harmon follows their relationship through the ups and downs as they try to navigate the world around them and presents her perspective based on her time spent with them.
The book exceeded my pretty lofty expectations. It was a perfect example of what countless young adults on the spectrum are dealing with today both in relationships and being single. It also helps serve as an awareness guide to autism. Subjects that are discussed include Diagnosis, Sensory Issues, along with others.
A chapter in the book titled “Mind Blindness” probably provided the most impact for me. Today, mind blindness is one of my greatest obstacles. In relationships this is something that can be a deal breaker for some. It really made me smile while reading this to see though that regardless of these difficulties for both Jack and Kirstein they were willing to work at it because they were in love with each other.
This is where I think the heart of “Asperger Love” really is. It shows that regardless of autism everyone goes through similar obstacles that need to be overcame. It made me more optimistic about my potential future relationships as someone who is currently single and looking for a next relationship. It’s a reminder that sure relationships are work but if you find that right person no matter who it is you can work for love. That it’s not just a one and done scenario.
From an adult with autism topic this book stands out to me because there still isn’t enough content out about us yet. When you add the relationship subject it’s even more scarce a subject. I’m very grateful for Amy’s contributions to this and would recommend this entry to your personal library (It’s only 2.99 on Kindle!). As for Jack, Kirstein, myself, and anyone else reading this that we remember to take life as it comes and just like anyone else remember that we should go after what we love in this world no matter what…
A lesson I was able to reinforce from reading Asperger Love.